Wisdom in Marriage

“And she was a woman of good understanding and beautiful appearance; but the man was harsh and evil in his doings.”
— 1 Samuel 25:3 (NKJV)

In today’s devotional, we reflect on the story of Abigail—a woman whose wisdom in marriage brought peace and preservation to her home. Her life teaches us that when wisdom and understanding guide our relationships, God steps in to bring calm even in moments of tension.

The influence of a woman in a man’s life is undeniable. In Genesis 2:18, God declared that it was not good for man to be alone, and so He created woman as a suitable helper. Throughout Scripture, we see how that influence can either build or destroy. Eve’s decision led Adam into disobedience, while Delilah’s manipulation caused Samson’s downfall (Judges 16:15). Yet in Abigail, we see a woman who used her influence to bring life and honour to her household.

“And she was a woman of good understanding and beautiful appearance; but the man was harsh and evil in his doings.” — 1 Samuel 25:3 (NKJV)

True wisdom in marriage goes beyond intelligence—it is the grace to discern, understand, and act rightly. Proverbs 24:3 reminds us that “Through wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established.” Homes are not sustained by affection alone but by the patient understanding that comes from godly wisdom. It is wisdom that helps us perceive the needs of our spouses and respond with compassion rather than conflict.

True wisdom in marriage goes beyond intelligence—it is the grace to discern, understand, and act rightly.

Abigail balanced both wisdom and beauty. She maintained her dignity and grace even while married to a difficult man. Psalm 139:14 affirms that every woman is fearfully and wonderfully made. Outer beauty matters, but inner grace—shaped by wisdom—builds lasting strength in marriage.

While this message speaks to women, the principles apply to all of us. Just as women are called to wisdom, men are called to love selflessly. Ephesians 5:25 teaches husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the Church—sacrificially and unconditionally. When both walk in wisdom and love, homes are established in peace and honour.

May the Lord fill every home with His wisdom, restore broken relationships, and guide us to love as He loves.

Song of Worship:
Lord, have mercy
Christ, have mercy
Lord, have mercy on me.
(“Lord Have Mercy” by Michael W. Smith)

Prayer:
Lord, grant me wisdom in marriage and understanding in every relationship. Help me to build my home on Your word and reflect Your grace in all I do. Restore peace and unity where there has been division, in Jesus’ name. Amen.

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Bible in 1 Year: Jeremiah 32-33; Hebrews 1